Yup! U kno dis!
Its awesome when you get to a certain point and been through so much that you know how something is gonna play out and you know where u'll end up. Knowing you can get over something because you've already experienced the same exact thing or something similar is really a blessing. You may feel the same way you did before and some things will always hurt, but knowing you will be okay in the end gives you the strength you didnt have the first time. Like when you totally thought your life was over back in highschool. :-D
Sh!ts gonna happen. Thats life. And your plan is not always gonna work. But once youve been through nonsense enough you start to learn that if you have gotten over it before, you will get over it again. Like your first heartbreak is the worst. But the next one wont be so bad. And knowing you were able to get over the first one and try again, lets you know this time will be even easier!
Kind of like riding a bike. You got to fall down a couple times before you get it right. The first fall is always the worst and you may wanna just give up. If you decide to try again, you know falling is apart of it, and eventually you will start to brace yourself. You really know what you doin when you break out the knee pads and helmet. :-D Then eventually, you wont need to protect yourself so much.
Anyway, that is why I really like that Hard song by Rihanna when she says "No pain lasts foreva, Yup! you know dis!" It's so true. The worst pain will eventually go away. Dont dwell on the negative. We're here to experience the bad so we know how to appreciate the good. How can you really be happy if you dont know what being down is like? And how can you really be happy if you're worrying about the next time you'll be sad? Live your life! (yeah, she said that too) ;-)
Friday, December 18, 2009
Where Does Rushing Get You?
Absolutely nowhere fast! :-/
Sorry to be Debbie Downer but it's so true. You just cant rush things. No matter what it is. You cant rush success, education, love, getting to know someone, or even getting to know yourself. Ive learned that even when you think you can beat this rule and your rushing is going great, you always end up missing something you would have normally saw if you had taken your time. The only time I ever really slack on this rule is in relationships. Im good for ignoring speed limits and bumps of the heart. But Im gettin better though!!
Ive learned that things always start out good. I mean why wouldnt they? Things are new and fresh and theres so much like in the air, how could they go wrong? People tend to be on their best behavior when they are in "impress you" mode. This can also be called "get what they want" mode. Depends on the maturity of the person. They throw good things at you so fast you dont have a time to sit and really think about the decisions you are making... if you're in a rush. You cant judge a trip by how it begins. Flat tires normally dont happen til you're like halfway there. :-)
Bein in a rush always means youre gonna miss the signs. This will always send you in the wrong direction and leave you goin in circles trying to get back on the right route. But like downtown, once you miss a turn. Thats it. You might as well plan to go somewhere else or take your butt home. (shout out to nisha! lol) You cant go back the same way you came. Taking your time would have allowed you to see all the signs you needed in order to get where you really belonged. And this might not always be where you thought you were going.
You cant possibly really get to know someone in a rush. When things are going really fast in a short amount of time, you dont get to experience the person in certain situations. You will most likely never witness someone being angry, sad, or stressed early on, which is a major deal breaker if you dont like who they become during these times. Some people have character traits you might not be able to deal with and you wont know unless you take the time to experience them in all forms.
So take the time to learn who you're dealing with and learn who you are at the same time. you dont know what you like and dislike if you dont even know yourself. Rushing a situation can make you believe it's way more than what it is. So once you slow down, you'll realize it's not as bad as it seems. Sometimes you will have to reroute and change your destination so gas up, get your playlist together, and make sure you stop to smell the flowers. :-)
Sorry to be Debbie Downer but it's so true. You just cant rush things. No matter what it is. You cant rush success, education, love, getting to know someone, or even getting to know yourself. Ive learned that even when you think you can beat this rule and your rushing is going great, you always end up missing something you would have normally saw if you had taken your time. The only time I ever really slack on this rule is in relationships. Im good for ignoring speed limits and bumps of the heart. But Im gettin better though!!
Ive learned that things always start out good. I mean why wouldnt they? Things are new and fresh and theres so much like in the air, how could they go wrong? People tend to be on their best behavior when they are in "impress you" mode. This can also be called "get what they want" mode. Depends on the maturity of the person. They throw good things at you so fast you dont have a time to sit and really think about the decisions you are making... if you're in a rush. You cant judge a trip by how it begins. Flat tires normally dont happen til you're like halfway there. :-)
Bein in a rush always means youre gonna miss the signs. This will always send you in the wrong direction and leave you goin in circles trying to get back on the right route. But like downtown, once you miss a turn. Thats it. You might as well plan to go somewhere else or take your butt home. (shout out to nisha! lol) You cant go back the same way you came. Taking your time would have allowed you to see all the signs you needed in order to get where you really belonged. And this might not always be where you thought you were going.
You cant possibly really get to know someone in a rush. When things are going really fast in a short amount of time, you dont get to experience the person in certain situations. You will most likely never witness someone being angry, sad, or stressed early on, which is a major deal breaker if you dont like who they become during these times. Some people have character traits you might not be able to deal with and you wont know unless you take the time to experience them in all forms.
So take the time to learn who you're dealing with and learn who you are at the same time. you dont know what you like and dislike if you dont even know yourself. Rushing a situation can make you believe it's way more than what it is. So once you slow down, you'll realize it's not as bad as it seems. Sometimes you will have to reroute and change your destination so gas up, get your playlist together, and make sure you stop to smell the flowers. :-)
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
"I Want This Forever...."
"....I Swear I Can Spend Whatever On It...."
Really??
You want it forever? Or just right now? Do you want it cause you think you cant have it, and once you get it you stop spending whatever on it? I always wonder about guys that go so hard for a chick (or vice versa) only to mess up once they get her. It's like, what the hell was your point? Yes I know some people might lead on that they feeling someone more than they really are to get what they want, but it seems nowadays people are going to EXTREMES to satisfy their temporary wants or needs. Its just never been that serious to me to lie to kick it. Im just saying.
What's so hard about bein honest with yours? "Look, I just wanna do this or this and that's it. No extra stuff. Are you cool with that?" Taking the honest road might get you some surprising results. A bish might actually be down with that! Instead of wasting your time, energy, and money on showing someone a side of you that's not true, or that's not going to last, why dont ya just be you? I promise SOMEBODY will like it!
It just seems so much easier to me to just be honest from the beginning so no one can come at you feeling played or lied to. I like to be able to call somebody up in the future if need be, so why burn ya bridges? If you really workin to get so many notches on ya belt, dont they disappear if the person wouldnt mess with you again? Like if I was into that sorta thing, I would find the number of who I can call again more important than the number of people Ive been with period.
Know that you are so much that dude or chick you dont have to sugar coat nothing and wrap it in a bow. Know that you can be real and say what you want and and actually GET what you want. Let's leave the games on the mantle with the highschool diploma and act accordingly, please and thank you. "Cause Im not gone play the radio witcha!" :-)
Really??
You want it forever? Or just right now? Do you want it cause you think you cant have it, and once you get it you stop spending whatever on it? I always wonder about guys that go so hard for a chick (or vice versa) only to mess up once they get her. It's like, what the hell was your point? Yes I know some people might lead on that they feeling someone more than they really are to get what they want, but it seems nowadays people are going to EXTREMES to satisfy their temporary wants or needs. Its just never been that serious to me to lie to kick it. Im just saying.
What's so hard about bein honest with yours? "Look, I just wanna do this or this and that's it. No extra stuff. Are you cool with that?" Taking the honest road might get you some surprising results. A bish might actually be down with that! Instead of wasting your time, energy, and money on showing someone a side of you that's not true, or that's not going to last, why dont ya just be you? I promise SOMEBODY will like it!
It just seems so much easier to me to just be honest from the beginning so no one can come at you feeling played or lied to. I like to be able to call somebody up in the future if need be, so why burn ya bridges? If you really workin to get so many notches on ya belt, dont they disappear if the person wouldnt mess with you again? Like if I was into that sorta thing, I would find the number of who I can call again more important than the number of people Ive been with period.
Know that you are so much that dude or chick you dont have to sugar coat nothing and wrap it in a bow. Know that you can be real and say what you want and and actually GET what you want. Let's leave the games on the mantle with the highschool diploma and act accordingly, please and thank you. "Cause Im not gone play the radio witcha!" :-)
Friday, October 9, 2009
Regrets are Man Made!
And im tired of making them! lol
Im so tired of wanting to just be myself and do my own thing, but always hesitating because i didnt wanna have to explain myself or deal with some drama! I dont wanna have to answer to anyone and i dont want anyone to think i owe them a thing. Im grown and for the most part i take care of myself, so why do i need to take anybody's feelings or concerns into consideration when making a decision?
We shouldnt let people define whats good or bad in our lives. Whats good for somebody might not be good for the next. And all these labels nowadays making it hard for people to really be themselves. Who cares what the next man gonna think about what you do with your mind, your body, your money, or whatever. Do you! Stop worrying about what people gonna say and go for it. Especially if you able to make your own decisions and they arent affecting anyone but yourself. Why not?
I spent a long time hesitating to do things, not because i thought they were bad, but because someone else did. Now how much fun was that for me? And when things did not go my way, i always got the "i told ya so". Well i dont care. I just wanna be free to live! I dont want to answer to nobody but the big man upstairs. Anyone else is just a spectator.
So dont regret your past and dont hinder your future! Just be you, whoever that is. Dont regret what made you happy for the moment. Just live like you know its right for you. So whatever youve been debating, just do it. Take a risk, and live. No one can tell me whats right for me or what choices i should make . Seriously, "who gon' check me boo?" ;-)
Im so tired of wanting to just be myself and do my own thing, but always hesitating because i didnt wanna have to explain myself or deal with some drama! I dont wanna have to answer to anyone and i dont want anyone to think i owe them a thing. Im grown and for the most part i take care of myself, so why do i need to take anybody's feelings or concerns into consideration when making a decision?
We shouldnt let people define whats good or bad in our lives. Whats good for somebody might not be good for the next. And all these labels nowadays making it hard for people to really be themselves. Who cares what the next man gonna think about what you do with your mind, your body, your money, or whatever. Do you! Stop worrying about what people gonna say and go for it. Especially if you able to make your own decisions and they arent affecting anyone but yourself. Why not?
I spent a long time hesitating to do things, not because i thought they were bad, but because someone else did. Now how much fun was that for me? And when things did not go my way, i always got the "i told ya so". Well i dont care. I just wanna be free to live! I dont want to answer to nobody but the big man upstairs. Anyone else is just a spectator.
So dont regret your past and dont hinder your future! Just be you, whoever that is. Dont regret what made you happy for the moment. Just live like you know its right for you. So whatever youve been debating, just do it. Take a risk, and live. No one can tell me whats right for me or what choices i should make . Seriously, "who gon' check me boo?" ;-)
Friday, October 2, 2009
You Just Know ;-)
I love that kinda love
Im just saying, you ever had that kinda love with somebody that it doesnt matter where they are, what they're doing, or who they're with, you just know ya'll love exists. Yes lawd, that kind of love where you dont even have to say anything, you know they know what you mean. That kind of love where if you dont see them it doesnt matter, cause when you do...;-) That's special!
I used to be the girl that just had to talk to my boyfriend everyday :-/ I can admit this because like most girls, that's what we did in high school. You talked all night on the phone til you fell asleep, and they better be at your locker in the morning prepared to walk you to every damn class, sit with you at lunch, then wait with you til your bus came, and then talk to you all night long....again. I really dont know how i did that lol
Once i got older, it wasnt so extreme, but i did still want to talk to my boo atleast once or twice a day "so i knew everything was okay." I had to realize this just was a comfort thing; maybe even an insecure thing to be honest. I used to feel like he cant talk to nobody else if he's talking to me lol But I had to realize that dont mean not a damn thing! Ive sat next guys while they "check in" sooooooo yeah lol You dont want ya boo to have to call just to prove he's not doing anything wrong. That's lame.
Being a woman means being secure with yourself and your situation. You dont feel the need to check on him and make sure he's doing what he said or make sure he still loves you (cause it might have worn off over the course of the night :-/) If somebody loves you, they love you, period. Who cares what they do all day long. A woman also cherishes her alone time and doesnt need to be smothered with a guy. Once you know what you have is real, you dont need to worry about it. Although the situation may not be perfect, you know where you stand and in the end, they will still be right there. So relax bish! Real love aint going anywhere =)
Im just saying, you ever had that kinda love with somebody that it doesnt matter where they are, what they're doing, or who they're with, you just know ya'll love exists. Yes lawd, that kind of love where you dont even have to say anything, you know they know what you mean. That kind of love where if you dont see them it doesnt matter, cause when you do...;-) That's special!
I used to be the girl that just had to talk to my boyfriend everyday :-/ I can admit this because like most girls, that's what we did in high school. You talked all night on the phone til you fell asleep, and they better be at your locker in the morning prepared to walk you to every damn class, sit with you at lunch, then wait with you til your bus came, and then talk to you all night long....again. I really dont know how i did that lol
Once i got older, it wasnt so extreme, but i did still want to talk to my boo atleast once or twice a day "so i knew everything was okay." I had to realize this just was a comfort thing; maybe even an insecure thing to be honest. I used to feel like he cant talk to nobody else if he's talking to me lol But I had to realize that dont mean not a damn thing! Ive sat next guys while they "check in" sooooooo yeah lol You dont want ya boo to have to call just to prove he's not doing anything wrong. That's lame.
Being a woman means being secure with yourself and your situation. You dont feel the need to check on him and make sure he's doing what he said or make sure he still loves you (cause it might have worn off over the course of the night :-/) If somebody loves you, they love you, period. Who cares what they do all day long. A woman also cherishes her alone time and doesnt need to be smothered with a guy. Once you know what you have is real, you dont need to worry about it. Although the situation may not be perfect, you know where you stand and in the end, they will still be right there. So relax bish! Real love aint going anywhere =)
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
What's Romance?
Im not too sure!
Guess that's the problem huh? Yeah, i've had a few moments where a guy did something new or out of the ordinary that will always stay with me. But to be quite honest those numbers are few. What is it nowadays that i find myself asking for dates or spending most of my Friday nights with a bottle of Moscato because i dont even wanna waste my time with a guy im not interested in. I would rather "chill" by myself than with someone who acts like he doesnt know what a date is.
So what is the problem? Have dudes just gotten lazy? Have girls just gotten easy? Is it because of her that you think youre about to just skip the whole courting phase and just come to my house and "chill." That's just rude and immature. We are not in highschool, and in my opinion showing you really like someone is putting thought into showing them a good time, as well as getting to know them. Making time in your schedule to do something as small as going to get a couple drinks goes long way.
Is it too much to surprise a bish? To come up with something all on your own, eliminating the whole, "well what you wanna do? well what you wanna do?" conversation. Romance to me is just putting in some effort to give me a chance to get all pretty and not have to do anything but show up. Atlanta is so huge and there are so many things to do and some of them dont even cost money if that's the problem. The park is free fellas!
If your schedule is too much and you can never find the time. Come up with something else to make her smile. It could be as simple as some flowers or a card to tell her how you feel if you cant show her. If you're able, plan something she can do on her own like a spa day or even just picking up her favorite movies and candy. It really is the thought that counts and it really doesnt take much! And if you make her happy, she will make you happy. ;-)
*sigh* ....SMH
Guess that's the problem huh? Yeah, i've had a few moments where a guy did something new or out of the ordinary that will always stay with me. But to be quite honest those numbers are few. What is it nowadays that i find myself asking for dates or spending most of my Friday nights with a bottle of Moscato because i dont even wanna waste my time with a guy im not interested in. I would rather "chill" by myself than with someone who acts like he doesnt know what a date is.
So what is the problem? Have dudes just gotten lazy? Have girls just gotten easy? Is it because of her that you think youre about to just skip the whole courting phase and just come to my house and "chill." That's just rude and immature. We are not in highschool, and in my opinion showing you really like someone is putting thought into showing them a good time, as well as getting to know them. Making time in your schedule to do something as small as going to get a couple drinks goes long way.
Is it too much to surprise a bish? To come up with something all on your own, eliminating the whole, "well what you wanna do? well what you wanna do?" conversation. Romance to me is just putting in some effort to give me a chance to get all pretty and not have to do anything but show up. Atlanta is so huge and there are so many things to do and some of them dont even cost money if that's the problem. The park is free fellas!
If your schedule is too much and you can never find the time. Come up with something else to make her smile. It could be as simple as some flowers or a card to tell her how you feel if you cant show her. If you're able, plan something she can do on her own like a spa day or even just picking up her favorite movies and candy. It really is the thought that counts and it really doesnt take much! And if you make her happy, she will make you happy. ;-)
*sigh* ....SMH
Monday, September 28, 2009
Know Your Worth
"Your self worth determines your net worth"
Today i wanna talk a little about self worth. And it doesnt have to necessarily be about a romantic relationship; this can be used in friendships and even your career. You have to know your worth people! You have to know what you deserve and know that there are people and places that are going to recognize that and treat you accordingly. You also have to be able to walk away from a situation that you believe is treating you like or offering you less than you deserve.
Knowing your self worth, to me, begins with figuring out what it is that you want. Whatever that is in a relationship or a friendship or even a career is important in choosing the right people to surround yourself with and the right jobs to take. Once you know what you want, you need to make sure all your ish is in order so you not asking for more than your giving. You have to work hard to show people youre worth that extra mile or that extra dollar. You cant be half steppin talkin bout how much you're worth. Sorry basic bish.
If youre doin what your supposed to be doing, it will be easy for someone to see your worth and make a decision to do whatever it takes to lock you in. And if they dont, it just means THEY werent worth it. This really irks me when looking for jobs. Some companies always wanna give you the minimum instead of recognizing your worth. Does a candidate with a degree and five years experience deserve 8 something an hour?? Kill yourself
All in all, in any situation, know your worth and be able to walk away from a situation that's not providing you with that. It may be hard to turn down a job you really need, or let go of any type of relationship you want to work, but you will feel better about yourself in the long run. In the future, this will leave you available for a better opportunity that may present itself. And dont worry, the people and places that are worth it, will come around. So start demanding more and you will get more. Good day :-)
Today i wanna talk a little about self worth. And it doesnt have to necessarily be about a romantic relationship; this can be used in friendships and even your career. You have to know your worth people! You have to know what you deserve and know that there are people and places that are going to recognize that and treat you accordingly. You also have to be able to walk away from a situation that you believe is treating you like or offering you less than you deserve.
Knowing your self worth, to me, begins with figuring out what it is that you want. Whatever that is in a relationship or a friendship or even a career is important in choosing the right people to surround yourself with and the right jobs to take. Once you know what you want, you need to make sure all your ish is in order so you not asking for more than your giving. You have to work hard to show people youre worth that extra mile or that extra dollar. You cant be half steppin talkin bout how much you're worth. Sorry basic bish.
If youre doin what your supposed to be doing, it will be easy for someone to see your worth and make a decision to do whatever it takes to lock you in. And if they dont, it just means THEY werent worth it. This really irks me when looking for jobs. Some companies always wanna give you the minimum instead of recognizing your worth. Does a candidate with a degree and five years experience deserve 8 something an hour?? Kill yourself
All in all, in any situation, know your worth and be able to walk away from a situation that's not providing you with that. It may be hard to turn down a job you really need, or let go of any type of relationship you want to work, but you will feel better about yourself in the long run. In the future, this will leave you available for a better opportunity that may present itself. And dont worry, the people and places that are worth it, will come around. So start demanding more and you will get more. Good day :-)
Friday, September 25, 2009
Just Put It on Repeat
Im clearly on a role today =D
Anywho.... you ever was so done with somebody?! Like you just knew you was never gonna talk to them again and you hated their stinkin guts?? Ya'll went back and forth through so much crap and you neveeeeeeer thought ya'll could make it. This relationship had more curves and ups and downs than Six Flags and you were beginning to think ya'll just werent meant to be in each other's life??..............Then you realize how many times youve felt that way? lol
You ever had a person that just drove you crazy but you were always willing to give it another chance? You know even when you sayin you hate them, you really dont feel that way? Its just they make you so mad, and you get so fed up you give up on the whole situation hoping in the back of your mind it can eventually be fixed. And then ofcourse like always you give it another chance like its not gonna end up like the last 10,000 times! ;-)
When is it the time to give up?? I cant answer that for ya'll lol I dont damn know. What i do know is, its just like that with some people. Its okay to hope things can change, even if its only on the back of your mind. Dream on dreamers! Hope on my hopeful few! lol Take your break and get yourself ready for the next go round....cause you know its coming. Just accept it and try to learn from the mistakes so atleast youre not making the same ones.
Dont be really tryna remove the person from your whole life cause its a pain adding the person back once you make up lol Just realize yall have that crazy relationship your friends try to pretend they know nothin about and get over it. And no these situations dont always end up like yo want them to, but when you're able to look back on it and laugh, you'll realize it was totally worth it ;-)
Anywho.... you ever was so done with somebody?! Like you just knew you was never gonna talk to them again and you hated their stinkin guts?? Ya'll went back and forth through so much crap and you neveeeeeeer thought ya'll could make it. This relationship had more curves and ups and downs than Six Flags and you were beginning to think ya'll just werent meant to be in each other's life??..............Then you realize how many times youve felt that way? lol
You ever had a person that just drove you crazy but you were always willing to give it another chance? You know even when you sayin you hate them, you really dont feel that way? Its just they make you so mad, and you get so fed up you give up on the whole situation hoping in the back of your mind it can eventually be fixed. And then ofcourse like always you give it another chance like its not gonna end up like the last 10,000 times! ;-)
When is it the time to give up?? I cant answer that for ya'll lol I dont damn know. What i do know is, its just like that with some people. Its okay to hope things can change, even if its only on the back of your mind. Dream on dreamers! Hope on my hopeful few! lol Take your break and get yourself ready for the next go round....cause you know its coming. Just accept it and try to learn from the mistakes so atleast youre not making the same ones.
Dont be really tryna remove the person from your whole life cause its a pain adding the person back once you make up lol Just realize yall have that crazy relationship your friends try to pretend they know nothin about and get over it. And no these situations dont always end up like yo want them to, but when you're able to look back on it and laugh, you'll realize it was totally worth it ;-)
Friends!
How Many of Us Have Them?? ;-)
I do! I do! I do! And I luv them so much lol They keep me laughin even when i dont want to and i really do appreciate them for it! Some of them are like family and some of them ive just met but all in all Im happy to have them around for the good and the bad times! Although i feel like im losing a couple people in the friend circle, Im okay with that.
Friendships are just like any other relationship: sometimes you just grow apart. Sometimes you just realize you dont like the same things about that person you did five years ago. you could realize they have a few character traits you dont want in a friend. Or hey, maybe youve changed and they cant appreciate it. Either way, some people arent meant to be around forever. And even if you drift apart from a friend, doesnt meant you have to dislike each other, you just dont talk to them or hang with them as often.
Other times, you realize you do miss having that old friend around and decide to patch things up. Maybe you had a little spat with someone and decided to end your friendship, then somekinda way they creep back into your life. You can decide thats a good thing. Sometimes you just need a break from some people but it doesnt meant they're gone forever. The best friends are the ones you dont have to talk to all the time but know when you really need them, you can call em up!
Either way it goes, Im really happy with my friend circle at the moment and i wouldnt have it any other way! =) Some people I talk to more than others and some can go to hell lol but either way i luv them all in their own special way and I am glad to have people to chill with and argue with, and act a damn fool on twitter with ahahahaaa! You guys are the best and I just wanted to let ya know tavy DOES luv u! ......kay now back to bein cool B-)
I do! I do! I do! And I luv them so much lol They keep me laughin even when i dont want to and i really do appreciate them for it! Some of them are like family and some of them ive just met but all in all Im happy to have them around for the good and the bad times! Although i feel like im losing a couple people in the friend circle, Im okay with that.
Friendships are just like any other relationship: sometimes you just grow apart. Sometimes you just realize you dont like the same things about that person you did five years ago. you could realize they have a few character traits you dont want in a friend. Or hey, maybe youve changed and they cant appreciate it. Either way, some people arent meant to be around forever. And even if you drift apart from a friend, doesnt meant you have to dislike each other, you just dont talk to them or hang with them as often.
Other times, you realize you do miss having that old friend around and decide to patch things up. Maybe you had a little spat with someone and decided to end your friendship, then somekinda way they creep back into your life. You can decide thats a good thing. Sometimes you just need a break from some people but it doesnt meant they're gone forever. The best friends are the ones you dont have to talk to all the time but know when you really need them, you can call em up!
Either way it goes, Im really happy with my friend circle at the moment and i wouldnt have it any other way! =) Some people I talk to more than others and some can go to hell lol but either way i luv them all in their own special way and I am glad to have people to chill with and argue with, and act a damn fool on twitter with ahahahaaa! You guys are the best and I just wanted to let ya know tavy DOES luv u! ......kay now back to bein cool B-)
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Orange Soda
Dont you just love a good Crush?? ;-)
Yes, Ive been away for a while. Did ya miss me?!? Im happy. How bout you guys?? Anywho, I want to talk about crushes. Arent they cute?? Dont you love when u have a new crush. I know I do. There are so many reasons to love em, how could you not?? The excitement of something new. The anxiety of what's to come. No real feelings or strings attached, so no heartbreak. *sigh*
For starters my favorite reason I love a new crush is because that means I am officially over someone else. ;-) Yup! I personally cant fully "crush" on someone new if my heart is somewhere else. This always lets me know Im over the past if my thoughts have shifted to the new crush. If you thought it might take you foreevveeeeerrrr to get past the last one, you are very grateful to have moved on.
Another reason I love a new crush is because everything is fun all over again. Nothing is routine and you cant wait to do new things with the new boo. You're back to the romantic and fun dates, and talkin and texting all nite like you dont have no where to be in the morning! lol And Lord forbid you miss a phone call (which you try to prevent by periodically making sure your phone is on and working properly =D). And there is always a ton of stuff to talk about because your learning about someone new.
Even if a crush goes no where and you realize maybe that's all it was: a crush. You still got to experience that giddiness that makes you smile for no reason at all. You realize you can get over your past and you will continue to do so. A crush could come out of no where and could be on someone you least expected. Those are the best! Realizing you like something totally different than what you had initially thought is always good. Youre learning about yourself and that's some good education! ;-) So to quote one of my fave commercials "Stay thirsty my friends" (but not like, parched) lol
Yes, Ive been away for a while. Did ya miss me?!? Im happy. How bout you guys?? Anywho, I want to talk about crushes. Arent they cute?? Dont you love when u have a new crush. I know I do. There are so many reasons to love em, how could you not?? The excitement of something new. The anxiety of what's to come. No real feelings or strings attached, so no heartbreak. *sigh*
For starters my favorite reason I love a new crush is because that means I am officially over someone else. ;-) Yup! I personally cant fully "crush" on someone new if my heart is somewhere else. This always lets me know Im over the past if my thoughts have shifted to the new crush. If you thought it might take you foreevveeeeerrrr to get past the last one, you are very grateful to have moved on.
Another reason I love a new crush is because everything is fun all over again. Nothing is routine and you cant wait to do new things with the new boo. You're back to the romantic and fun dates, and talkin and texting all nite like you dont have no where to be in the morning! lol And Lord forbid you miss a phone call (which you try to prevent by periodically making sure your phone is on and working properly =D). And there is always a ton of stuff to talk about because your learning about someone new.
Even if a crush goes no where and you realize maybe that's all it was: a crush. You still got to experience that giddiness that makes you smile for no reason at all. You realize you can get over your past and you will continue to do so. A crush could come out of no where and could be on someone you least expected. Those are the best! Realizing you like something totally different than what you had initially thought is always good. Youre learning about yourself and that's some good education! ;-) So to quote one of my fave commercials "Stay thirsty my friends" (but not like, parched) lol
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Choosin
I hate this term lol
Today I want to address this whole choosin thing and what effect it has on how your relationship will go. Some co-wrokers of mine were discussing "choosin" and who should do it, and who gets the uppperhand based on who "chose". This sounds so ridiculous but I'm gonna try my best not to get lost in the choosin of the chosen one and so on a so forth lol
First off, choosin is when you decide you wanna date or holla at somebody. I would assume there has to be options for someone to choose, but ive been told not necessarily. Its just a broad term for deciding who you want to kick it with. Guys and girls can "choose" so it's not like back in the day when men were the only ones to do the approaching. Apparently anybody can get chosen.
My focus is, does being the one to get chosen give you an upperhand in the relationship? Does choosin mean you have given up your power to have any control in your relationship? It's like, well you wanted to talk to me so you gonna do what i say or Im not gonna let you choose me anymore or something. I think this type of situation can kind of go both ways.
If you are chosen, depending on whether or not you too were choosin this person on the low-low, you can kind of see how far you can get the person to go if they are choosin kinda hard. If you know somebody really likes you, some may try to get what they can, even if the choosin isnt mutual. I guess in this instance, being chosen has its perks.
If you are choosing you could play it the other way around. If i choose you instead of the other person, what are you gonna do to continue to get chosen??? ;-) And if you know how to choose right, you gonna make sure the choosin is somewhat mutual so you dont get played. Seems like being the chooser can also give you the upperhand.
I guess we have all been one each side so maybe it's how you choose and not WHO you choose that determines the outcome. *sigh* That was exhausting lol What do ya'll think?
Today I want to address this whole choosin thing and what effect it has on how your relationship will go. Some co-wrokers of mine were discussing "choosin" and who should do it, and who gets the uppperhand based on who "chose". This sounds so ridiculous but I'm gonna try my best not to get lost in the choosin of the chosen one and so on a so forth lol
First off, choosin is when you decide you wanna date or holla at somebody. I would assume there has to be options for someone to choose, but ive been told not necessarily. Its just a broad term for deciding who you want to kick it with. Guys and girls can "choose" so it's not like back in the day when men were the only ones to do the approaching. Apparently anybody can get chosen.
My focus is, does being the one to get chosen give you an upperhand in the relationship? Does choosin mean you have given up your power to have any control in your relationship? It's like, well you wanted to talk to me so you gonna do what i say or Im not gonna let you choose me anymore or something. I think this type of situation can kind of go both ways.
If you are chosen, depending on whether or not you too were choosin this person on the low-low, you can kind of see how far you can get the person to go if they are choosin kinda hard. If you know somebody really likes you, some may try to get what they can, even if the choosin isnt mutual. I guess in this instance, being chosen has its perks.
If you are choosing you could play it the other way around. If i choose you instead of the other person, what are you gonna do to continue to get chosen??? ;-) And if you know how to choose right, you gonna make sure the choosin is somewhat mutual so you dont get played. Seems like being the chooser can also give you the upperhand.
I guess we have all been one each side so maybe it's how you choose and not WHO you choose that determines the outcome. *sigh* That was exhausting lol What do ya'll think?
Monday, August 24, 2009
What Kind Are You?
MORNING!
Yes, Ive been away for a while. I just needed a lil break. I took a lil vacay, and Im feeling waaaaaaay better than before. Confusion was narrating my life but clarity has come in to do some editing ;-) Things happen for a reason and i believe in destiny. What you want, may not always be what you need. Life is not easy and sometimes you have to lose things to appreciate what you have. And once it's gone, you realize you really didnt need it after all. There are so many different types of people and im learning more and more about how to deal with certain ones.
Some people are like paper plates. You're only supposed to use them ONCE! And then you throw them away. There is no washing, drying, and re-using. They are not meant for that. These people cant withstand the heat from the dishwasher and will lose their shape. Sometimes you just dont feel like doing the dishes and you need something convenient. You dont treat these people like your regular glass or china. Just use them and be done. ( i dont condone this type of behavior, just stating facts lol)
You always have your boomerangs. These are the people you cant seem to keep a handle on for longer than a couple months at a time. When you throw them out they always come back, and you cant wait to catch them. Sometimes they come back just when you need them, and they leave after they've served their purpose. Although they might be the most fun, they're not meant to stay around, and maybe that's best.
Then there are your anchors (my fave!). These are the people that hold you down no matter what. They help you through the storms and sometimes they even create them ;-) But no matter what, they help keep you grounded and you can count on them to be there when you need them. Regardless of where you float to, your anchor is ready to drop down and make sure you dont stray to far from where you need to be. These people arent going anywhere.
Dont try and substitute one for another. You cant change someones makeup! A paper plate is a paper plate for a reason. Your boomerang is incapable of being your anchor. Period. Know who you're dealing with and allow them to serve their purpose. Sidenote: people are different things to different people. Its possible for someone to be your boomerang while being an anchor to someone else! So dont expect your paper plate to "boomerang" how they did for the last person ;-)
Yes, Ive been away for a while. I just needed a lil break. I took a lil vacay, and Im feeling waaaaaaay better than before. Confusion was narrating my life but clarity has come in to do some editing ;-) Things happen for a reason and i believe in destiny. What you want, may not always be what you need. Life is not easy and sometimes you have to lose things to appreciate what you have. And once it's gone, you realize you really didnt need it after all. There are so many different types of people and im learning more and more about how to deal with certain ones.
Some people are like paper plates. You're only supposed to use them ONCE! And then you throw them away. There is no washing, drying, and re-using. They are not meant for that. These people cant withstand the heat from the dishwasher and will lose their shape. Sometimes you just dont feel like doing the dishes and you need something convenient. You dont treat these people like your regular glass or china. Just use them and be done. ( i dont condone this type of behavior, just stating facts lol)
You always have your boomerangs. These are the people you cant seem to keep a handle on for longer than a couple months at a time. When you throw them out they always come back, and you cant wait to catch them. Sometimes they come back just when you need them, and they leave after they've served their purpose. Although they might be the most fun, they're not meant to stay around, and maybe that's best.
Then there are your anchors (my fave!). These are the people that hold you down no matter what. They help you through the storms and sometimes they even create them ;-) But no matter what, they help keep you grounded and you can count on them to be there when you need them. Regardless of where you float to, your anchor is ready to drop down and make sure you dont stray to far from where you need to be. These people arent going anywhere.
Dont try and substitute one for another. You cant change someones makeup! A paper plate is a paper plate for a reason. Your boomerang is incapable of being your anchor. Period. Know who you're dealing with and allow them to serve their purpose. Sidenote: people are different things to different people. Its possible for someone to be your boomerang while being an anchor to someone else! So dont expect your paper plate to "boomerang" how they did for the last person ;-)
Monday, August 17, 2009
Forgiveness
Morning People!!
Forgiving is hard. Let's just face it. It takes a while for most people to learn how to let go of grudges and just forgive and let it go. I used to be the queen of making people PAY for what they did to me! lol But i lost a lot of good friends doing that. Once you realize you arent gaining anything by not forgiving someone who is clearly remorseful and sorry, you will find it easier to forgive. Do you really not want them around? I didnt think so!
What helped me most was realizing clearly im not perfect, and i would hate for someone to never forgive me for a mistake. After being on the other side of the table, its easier to understand when forgiveness is due. We are all gonna have to use it one day, so just be prepared to break the glass on the "in case of emergency" forgiveness box. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and move on.
Some people may not deserve to be forgiven, and that's when things get tricky. Although its extremely hard in this case, go ahead and forgive them. You'll feel better in the long wrong. It takes so much energy to hate and despise someone than it does to just pray about it and move along. You dont have to tell them directly. You can just be at peace with the situation and you will honestly feel a whole lot better. I dont go to church everyday, but me and God are homies (the long way) and when I ask him to help me be a bigger and better person, things become so much easier. You definitely need some back up with forgiving someone you think doesnt deserve it.
Some people will try and make you feel stupid or naive for being so forgiving but its way easier to exchange "Im sorry....I forgive you" than to argue about something forever just to end up at that same point. Dont let friends or family make you feel bad about forgiving. It's what youre supposed to do. Loving people means accepting their faults. You gotta be able to encourage people to do better by letting them know you understand and you forgive them, in hopes they will learn from it.
In a lot of cases, people continue to make the same mistakes, and at that point you may need to forgive and really move on. Either way you will be happier in the long run by letting that burden of a grudge go and living your life. If someone cant forgive you for something, whatever. Shouldnt stop your flow. If you know youre truly sorry and they just cant be an adult and forgive you, then so be it. You dont need them to validate your remorse. Forgive them for not forgiving you. :-)
Forgiving is hard. Let's just face it. It takes a while for most people to learn how to let go of grudges and just forgive and let it go. I used to be the queen of making people PAY for what they did to me! lol But i lost a lot of good friends doing that. Once you realize you arent gaining anything by not forgiving someone who is clearly remorseful and sorry, you will find it easier to forgive. Do you really not want them around? I didnt think so!
What helped me most was realizing clearly im not perfect, and i would hate for someone to never forgive me for a mistake. After being on the other side of the table, its easier to understand when forgiveness is due. We are all gonna have to use it one day, so just be prepared to break the glass on the "in case of emergency" forgiveness box. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and move on.
Some people may not deserve to be forgiven, and that's when things get tricky. Although its extremely hard in this case, go ahead and forgive them. You'll feel better in the long wrong. It takes so much energy to hate and despise someone than it does to just pray about it and move along. You dont have to tell them directly. You can just be at peace with the situation and you will honestly feel a whole lot better. I dont go to church everyday, but me and God are homies (the long way) and when I ask him to help me be a bigger and better person, things become so much easier. You definitely need some back up with forgiving someone you think doesnt deserve it.
Some people will try and make you feel stupid or naive for being so forgiving but its way easier to exchange "Im sorry....I forgive you" than to argue about something forever just to end up at that same point. Dont let friends or family make you feel bad about forgiving. It's what youre supposed to do. Loving people means accepting their faults. You gotta be able to encourage people to do better by letting them know you understand and you forgive them, in hopes they will learn from it.
In a lot of cases, people continue to make the same mistakes, and at that point you may need to forgive and really move on. Either way you will be happier in the long run by letting that burden of a grudge go and living your life. If someone cant forgive you for something, whatever. Shouldnt stop your flow. If you know youre truly sorry and they just cant be an adult and forgive you, then so be it. You dont need them to validate your remorse. Forgive them for not forgiving you. :-)
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Cheating
No Fancy title for this one ;-) It is what it is LOL
My homie thought temptation would be a good topic to discuss. Specifically when doing a lot of traveling in a relationship. Is it hard to be faithful when youre always on the road encountering attractive people that your partner would probably never ever come across in life? Does traveling often without your partner leave room for some some serious #NOS #BOS action?? (in PC terms: a boy or girl on the side) How strong does a relationship have to be to withstand temptation while away from home?
I personally dont believe traveling has anything to do with being tempted and possibly cheating or just doing something you flat out have no business doing in a relationship. If youre tempted to cheat while on a trip, youre probably tempted to cheat right in your city and are probably already cheating ;-) lol Cheating is cheating is cheating and it dont matter where someone is, their will power dont just turnoff when they leave the state. It was already off! Might not have been acting on it, but they wanted to. The trip just gave them an excuse to act a fool. So this blog aint for ya'll! lol
For those who are actually faithful and tend to take a lot of trips away from their boo, temptation can be a huge issue. Especially if there is no trust. People cheat for many different reasons. Some of those being they think the other is cheating, their partner nags them and drives them to someone else, or they just dont have the balls to end their relationship. Some just cant get that thing they need from the one they love and they know exactly where to get it from without causing any friction in their relationship. Bim, Bam, thank you ma'am! But, for my good partners who want their relationship to work, they might just need to decipher if this is what they really want or not.
I learned a long time ago, just because you love someone doesnt mean you have to be together and just because you love someone doesnt mean you like them. A relationship cant work if you arent fully committed. And how can you be fully committed if youre always thinking of someone else or your mate is not satisfying you accordingly? It becomes a problem for both. You cant take your mate everywhere you go. So if youre taking a lot of trips you need to make sure the time you spend together is the best! Its up to the one always left at home to make sure their mate is happy. Make sure your mate is not wanting for anything so when theyre faced with temptation, unless theyre just an ass, there will be no need to deviate. If you really make an effort to communicate what's lacking and really make an effort to provide it, there really shouldnt be any problems.
If someone is always tempted and they have a really hard time not acting on it, they are just not in the relationship they should be in. It is very possible to be satisfied with one person, and if you cant, you arent relationship material. And there is nothing wrong with that! Just dont promise someone something you cant deliver. And if you have a mate thats always traveling, check your trust issues at the door. Dont accuse them of everything under the sun and they wont feel the need to do it. If youre gonna receive an attitude when you get home, you might as well have a good reason for it! ;-)
My homie thought temptation would be a good topic to discuss. Specifically when doing a lot of traveling in a relationship. Is it hard to be faithful when youre always on the road encountering attractive people that your partner would probably never ever come across in life? Does traveling often without your partner leave room for some some serious #NOS #BOS action?? (in PC terms: a boy or girl on the side) How strong does a relationship have to be to withstand temptation while away from home?
I personally dont believe traveling has anything to do with being tempted and possibly cheating or just doing something you flat out have no business doing in a relationship. If youre tempted to cheat while on a trip, youre probably tempted to cheat right in your city and are probably already cheating ;-) lol Cheating is cheating is cheating and it dont matter where someone is, their will power dont just turnoff when they leave the state. It was already off! Might not have been acting on it, but they wanted to. The trip just gave them an excuse to act a fool. So this blog aint for ya'll! lol
For those who are actually faithful and tend to take a lot of trips away from their boo, temptation can be a huge issue. Especially if there is no trust. People cheat for many different reasons. Some of those being they think the other is cheating, their partner nags them and drives them to someone else, or they just dont have the balls to end their relationship. Some just cant get that thing they need from the one they love and they know exactly where to get it from without causing any friction in their relationship. Bim, Bam, thank you ma'am! But, for my good partners who want their relationship to work, they might just need to decipher if this is what they really want or not.
I learned a long time ago, just because you love someone doesnt mean you have to be together and just because you love someone doesnt mean you like them. A relationship cant work if you arent fully committed. And how can you be fully committed if youre always thinking of someone else or your mate is not satisfying you accordingly? It becomes a problem for both. You cant take your mate everywhere you go. So if youre taking a lot of trips you need to make sure the time you spend together is the best! Its up to the one always left at home to make sure their mate is happy. Make sure your mate is not wanting for anything so when theyre faced with temptation, unless theyre just an ass, there will be no need to deviate. If you really make an effort to communicate what's lacking and really make an effort to provide it, there really shouldnt be any problems.
If someone is always tempted and they have a really hard time not acting on it, they are just not in the relationship they should be in. It is very possible to be satisfied with one person, and if you cant, you arent relationship material. And there is nothing wrong with that! Just dont promise someone something you cant deliver. And if you have a mate thats always traveling, check your trust issues at the door. Dont accuse them of everything under the sun and they wont feel the need to do it. If youre gonna receive an attitude when you get home, you might as well have a good reason for it! ;-)
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Love VS Money
And here we go....
Today I think I wanna talk about balance. How to keep your drive, independence, and goals and still maintain a healthy, good relationship. Is it possible to go for the money and still have love? Does it have to be "VS" instead of "and"? In a lot of relationships Ive experienced and witnessed, some people cant seem to find a balance between working and having time for their mate. I always chalk this up to not really wanting to be with the person due to the lack of effort to make it work. Maybe it's bad to assume but Im a firm believer in "you make time for what you want to make time for," no excuses. Its not your work keeping you away, it's you. Taking a lunch break just to see your partner, or planning something way in advance when you know you will be free, or designating a day a week thats just gonna be about them shows some kind of effort on your behalf. Yes things do come up, and yes maybe those dates could get cancelled, but atleast the attempt shows your effort. And sometimes the effort is all someone needs to see.
I do believe in having goals and working hard to achieve them, and that can frequently consume a lot of your time. But shouldnt making your partner happy be a goal you also put effort towards? If you spend all your time chasing money or fame because that makes you happy, is making the person you love smile just as important? Yes, the person who truly loves you will support you and take the background to your dreams, but dont they need support from you in return. I have seen needy people who just crave way too much attention hourly, and i have seen people who settle for one day out of the month. Where is the balance?
Now, knowing your partner beforehand can clear up a lot of trouble. So Im not speaking about someone who is expecting something they've never gotten, or trying to make someone be something they arent. When you met the person and they didnt spend time with you, they arent going to now! Im talking about having someone who made an effort to put you first sometimes and made sure to include you in their schedule, and then all of a sudden, something replaces you. Is it wrong to expect to consistently receive the same treatment that made you want to even deal with the person in the first place. If you know you cant be consistent, why even start something you cant finish?
Being driven and being successful is great, but dont forget about the one you love. Theyre only human and can only take so much. There is a point when anyone normal is going to need some kind of attention and affection to remain happy. If someone is making an effort to be understanding of your lifestyle, be understanding of their needs in return. I think it's very possible to have both love and money. Sometimes just including your partner in your activities can help balance the two. Communicating with one another, having some sort of game plan, AND STICKING TO IT can ensure you both remain happy.
Today I think I wanna talk about balance. How to keep your drive, independence, and goals and still maintain a healthy, good relationship. Is it possible to go for the money and still have love? Does it have to be "VS" instead of "and"? In a lot of relationships Ive experienced and witnessed, some people cant seem to find a balance between working and having time for their mate. I always chalk this up to not really wanting to be with the person due to the lack of effort to make it work. Maybe it's bad to assume but Im a firm believer in "you make time for what you want to make time for," no excuses. Its not your work keeping you away, it's you. Taking a lunch break just to see your partner, or planning something way in advance when you know you will be free, or designating a day a week thats just gonna be about them shows some kind of effort on your behalf. Yes things do come up, and yes maybe those dates could get cancelled, but atleast the attempt shows your effort. And sometimes the effort is all someone needs to see.
I do believe in having goals and working hard to achieve them, and that can frequently consume a lot of your time. But shouldnt making your partner happy be a goal you also put effort towards? If you spend all your time chasing money or fame because that makes you happy, is making the person you love smile just as important? Yes, the person who truly loves you will support you and take the background to your dreams, but dont they need support from you in return. I have seen needy people who just crave way too much attention hourly, and i have seen people who settle for one day out of the month. Where is the balance?
Now, knowing your partner beforehand can clear up a lot of trouble. So Im not speaking about someone who is expecting something they've never gotten, or trying to make someone be something they arent. When you met the person and they didnt spend time with you, they arent going to now! Im talking about having someone who made an effort to put you first sometimes and made sure to include you in their schedule, and then all of a sudden, something replaces you. Is it wrong to expect to consistently receive the same treatment that made you want to even deal with the person in the first place. If you know you cant be consistent, why even start something you cant finish?
Being driven and being successful is great, but dont forget about the one you love. Theyre only human and can only take so much. There is a point when anyone normal is going to need some kind of attention and affection to remain happy. If someone is making an effort to be understanding of your lifestyle, be understanding of their needs in return. I think it's very possible to have both love and money. Sometimes just including your partner in your activities can help balance the two. Communicating with one another, having some sort of game plan, AND STICKING TO IT can ensure you both remain happy.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
"Right Side of Ya Brain...."
Its morniiiiiing :-)
I think I wanna touch on some relationship stuff today :-/ lol I think its important to try and understand why you cant leave certain people alone or let go of your feelings for someone who clearly is not the one or does not share those same feelings as you. It really SUCKS when you feel as though your feelings arent mutual and the other person has the upperhand in your relationship. And when I say relationship, I mean any kind: boyfriend/girlfriend, or just dating/talking, or even just sexing. Its got to be mutual; everyone has to be on the same page. Something on a smaller scale could lead to much bigger things, but youve both got to know what the other wants and doesnt want. Thats why I always say communication is key.
If youre always left wanting more or feeling unsatisfied mentally or physically, its safe to say either that person just doesnt know how you feel or they just arent that into you. Sorry! If youve told someone how you feel and nothing changes, that should (in most cases) let you know the feelings arent mutual because they would put forth the effort to make you believe they feel the same way as you. And in most cases, this conversation isnt even needed because you guys are already there. Now dont get me wrong, cause Im no Dr. Phil, but in my experience, this type of behavior normally means they just aint feelin ya. And that doesnt mean at all, just not the way you like or love them.
If youve been dealing with someone for a long period of time and youve yet to get to a place where you are both happy with your specific relationship, you might not ever be. Although I believe relationships require effort, it shouldnt take years to get it right. Not on basic things like how much time you spend together, or communicate, or "where your relationship is heading". Clearly its no where if you have that talk every couple weeks. If in the back of your mind, you believe someone isnt being all the way 100 with you, 9 times out of 10, they arent.
My main issue is, if youre in a situation with someone where it never goes your way and you always feel like you care waaaaaaay more than they do, its okay. The heart is not your brain. Although you know in your mind, this person isnt right for you, or they just flat out aint sh!t, the heart does not know that. Its okay to feel a certain way about someone even if its not mutual. You cant tell your heart what to do. No, you shouldnt make a fool of yourself, but if you settle for the minimum BY CHOICE, then so be it. Sometimes its just like that, and thats the way it is! Sometimes you just wanna see that person even if its for a little bit ;-) *sigh*
What Im trying to say (before you stalkers get any ideas) is just because that persons feelings arent as full blown as yours (or maybe they dont show it like you do) and you continue to deal with them, doesnt mean something is wrong with you for still caring. If you stop loving someone or liking someone just because they dont show it the same way you do, you might not have felt that way in the first place. Dont be mad at them and dont beat yourself up. Now, if you wake up and realize you want something else, or you cant handle their casualness to your situation, then move on. Either way, you may then STILL have those feelings. You just arent acting on them anymore.
Now for those lucky people on the other side. Do them a favor and just tell them what it is. Hey, I dont like you like that, or I do feel the same, I just dont wanna act on it..... Whatever it may be, dont let the person drive themselves crazy trying to figure you out. If you care about them, even if its on a way smaller scale than they do you, let them know how you feel so they can make whatever decision may be best for them and their happiness. And to all my people who wear their heart on their sleeve and arent afraid of being 100 and putting themselves out there in the path of rejection or heartache, I applaud you, because you WONT miss out on love as someone who never says or does anything and loses what could be the best thing that ever happened to them. =)
I think I wanna touch on some relationship stuff today :-/ lol I think its important to try and understand why you cant leave certain people alone or let go of your feelings for someone who clearly is not the one or does not share those same feelings as you. It really SUCKS when you feel as though your feelings arent mutual and the other person has the upperhand in your relationship. And when I say relationship, I mean any kind: boyfriend/girlfriend, or just dating/talking, or even just sexing. Its got to be mutual; everyone has to be on the same page. Something on a smaller scale could lead to much bigger things, but youve both got to know what the other wants and doesnt want. Thats why I always say communication is key.
If youre always left wanting more or feeling unsatisfied mentally or physically, its safe to say either that person just doesnt know how you feel or they just arent that into you. Sorry! If youve told someone how you feel and nothing changes, that should (in most cases) let you know the feelings arent mutual because they would put forth the effort to make you believe they feel the same way as you. And in most cases, this conversation isnt even needed because you guys are already there. Now dont get me wrong, cause Im no Dr. Phil, but in my experience, this type of behavior normally means they just aint feelin ya. And that doesnt mean at all, just not the way you like or love them.
If youve been dealing with someone for a long period of time and youve yet to get to a place where you are both happy with your specific relationship, you might not ever be. Although I believe relationships require effort, it shouldnt take years to get it right. Not on basic things like how much time you spend together, or communicate, or "where your relationship is heading". Clearly its no where if you have that talk every couple weeks. If in the back of your mind, you believe someone isnt being all the way 100 with you, 9 times out of 10, they arent.
My main issue is, if youre in a situation with someone where it never goes your way and you always feel like you care waaaaaaay more than they do, its okay. The heart is not your brain. Although you know in your mind, this person isnt right for you, or they just flat out aint sh!t, the heart does not know that. Its okay to feel a certain way about someone even if its not mutual. You cant tell your heart what to do. No, you shouldnt make a fool of yourself, but if you settle for the minimum BY CHOICE, then so be it. Sometimes its just like that, and thats the way it is! Sometimes you just wanna see that person even if its for a little bit ;-) *sigh*
What Im trying to say (before you stalkers get any ideas) is just because that persons feelings arent as full blown as yours (or maybe they dont show it like you do) and you continue to deal with them, doesnt mean something is wrong with you for still caring. If you stop loving someone or liking someone just because they dont show it the same way you do, you might not have felt that way in the first place. Dont be mad at them and dont beat yourself up. Now, if you wake up and realize you want something else, or you cant handle their casualness to your situation, then move on. Either way, you may then STILL have those feelings. You just arent acting on them anymore.
Now for those lucky people on the other side. Do them a favor and just tell them what it is. Hey, I dont like you like that, or I do feel the same, I just dont wanna act on it..... Whatever it may be, dont let the person drive themselves crazy trying to figure you out. If you care about them, even if its on a way smaller scale than they do you, let them know how you feel so they can make whatever decision may be best for them and their happiness. And to all my people who wear their heart on their sleeve and arent afraid of being 100 and putting themselves out there in the path of rejection or heartache, I applaud you, because you WONT miss out on love as someone who never says or does anything and loses what could be the best thing that ever happened to them. =)
Friday, August 7, 2009
Downtime
Good Morning!
First off i just want ya'll to peep my consistency lol Today I think I wanna discuss how twitter was down yesterday and everyone lost their minds (including myself) lol who knew something as simple and minute as a one sentence update to let the world know something they probably dont even care about could cause such an "uproar in the community" :-/ I mean this was major. CNN and Channel 2 action news both ran stories on it. Yes, twitter was hacked, but that wasnt the main focus of their reports, it was more about how people were going to "deal" without being able to update.
I was one of those late tweeters. I thought it was stupid and everyone i knew was on the site before me. Once i began feeling left out when i would be chillin with friends and they would be updating right next to each other and i had no clue what was going on, I broke down and let someone set me up an account. Still then, it took a while for me to really get in the habit of consitently updating my status. But OMG once i got in the habit, i could not stop!! I mean I seriously had to be on twitter at all times, making sure i didnt miss when my homies got off work or went to sleep or washed their hair. And i also had to make sure the world knew when i was sleepy at work, or hungry, or watching a really funny show. "LOL guys, you should watch this!" :-/
Soooooooooo when the site went down, how did we cope??? Did we go into shock and wonder what is wrong with our stupid phones? Did you continuously refresh your twitter, then delete the app and re-install it (like i did, sshhhhhh!) Did you Instant Message your friends to see why you couldnt talk to them on twitter, because thats so different than AOL, Yahoo, or just plain ole texting?? OR did you do something productive with yourself?!?! Maybe go to the gym, read a book, call your relatives, or start a blog like I did :-) I went to the gym too, but thats a whole nother story :-/
Dont get me wrong, I loooooove me some twitter. I have yet to understand why, but I am no longer in denial. I logged in from the web this morning because although clearly twitter is up and running, Ubertwitter is NOT! ggrrrrrrrrr! BUT when something like twitter being hacked makes the news and everyone cant wait for it to work again, I wonder how much time and productivity is being wasted sitting around pressing refresh. Im jusayin, multitask ppl! Go on ahead and update, but make sure youre actually updating about doing something productive in life that will benefit you in the long run (and still feel free to update me on the beer pong or WTDT@ "where they do that at" status').
Now that ive done something productive with my day, I dont feel bad about spending the rest of it checking when Ubertwitter will be back up again ;-)
So, what did YOU do while twitter was down?
First off i just want ya'll to peep my consistency lol Today I think I wanna discuss how twitter was down yesterday and everyone lost their minds (including myself) lol who knew something as simple and minute as a one sentence update to let the world know something they probably dont even care about could cause such an "uproar in the community" :-/ I mean this was major. CNN and Channel 2 action news both ran stories on it. Yes, twitter was hacked, but that wasnt the main focus of their reports, it was more about how people were going to "deal" without being able to update.
I was one of those late tweeters. I thought it was stupid and everyone i knew was on the site before me. Once i began feeling left out when i would be chillin with friends and they would be updating right next to each other and i had no clue what was going on, I broke down and let someone set me up an account. Still then, it took a while for me to really get in the habit of consitently updating my status. But OMG once i got in the habit, i could not stop!! I mean I seriously had to be on twitter at all times, making sure i didnt miss when my homies got off work or went to sleep or washed their hair. And i also had to make sure the world knew when i was sleepy at work, or hungry, or watching a really funny show. "LOL guys, you should watch this!" :-/
Soooooooooo when the site went down, how did we cope??? Did we go into shock and wonder what is wrong with our stupid phones? Did you continuously refresh your twitter, then delete the app and re-install it (like i did, sshhhhhh!) Did you Instant Message your friends to see why you couldnt talk to them on twitter, because thats so different than AOL, Yahoo, or just plain ole texting?? OR did you do something productive with yourself?!?! Maybe go to the gym, read a book, call your relatives, or start a blog like I did :-) I went to the gym too, but thats a whole nother story :-/
Dont get me wrong, I loooooove me some twitter. I have yet to understand why, but I am no longer in denial. I logged in from the web this morning because although clearly twitter is up and running, Ubertwitter is NOT! ggrrrrrrrrr! BUT when something like twitter being hacked makes the news and everyone cant wait for it to work again, I wonder how much time and productivity is being wasted sitting around pressing refresh. Im jusayin, multitask ppl! Go on ahead and update, but make sure youre actually updating about doing something productive in life that will benefit you in the long run (and still feel free to update me on the beer pong or WTDT@ "where they do that at" status').
Now that ive done something productive with my day, I dont feel bad about spending the rest of it checking when Ubertwitter will be back up again ;-)
So, what did YOU do while twitter was down?
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Long Time Coming
Hola! ;-)
I would like to introduce you to my blog. I know right, Yay! lol Anywho, Im a 23 year old woman, fresh out of college, working and living life one day at a time. I have a Journalism degree with a minor in Sociology, so i gues its only fitting that i have a Blog ha! I love giving advice and i tend to think Im pretty good at it, so this is my way of sharing that with the world (or atleast Atlanta ;-D).
Im a strong believer that communication is the answer to ANY problem. Even if you dont agree in the end, you know what pissed the other off, so you can try not to do it again. There's my bandaid for that problem. See, Ive already blessed you with some great advice. From my love life, to work life, to friendships, to just about anything, I always analyze how things have gone in the past, to how they are now, and most importantly where things could go. This is my Fancy Foresight. My take on different situations and how the past and pesent can most likely help predict your future.
I should have done this a long time ago, so majority of my content may have already came and went, but some of you could just now be experiencing something similar, so i will happily fill ya in on my stories! If im feeling a certain way, I may just go off on a tangent that has nothing to do with any of the above mentioned criteria. And i can do that, because, well, its MY Blog! ;-) And on that note, I have a license to just make up words lol and if I do, I will try to explain what Im tombout (talking about) ...and there's your first lesson!
No, this is not a male bashing blog lol I love men!!! I am very unbiased when it comes to my account of a situation, and most of the time can find fault in all parties involved. Sooooooo feel free to come and read, comment, and give ideas for new Blogs Kay? Cool! ttyl
I would like to introduce you to my blog. I know right, Yay! lol Anywho, Im a 23 year old woman, fresh out of college, working and living life one day at a time. I have a Journalism degree with a minor in Sociology, so i gues its only fitting that i have a Blog ha! I love giving advice and i tend to think Im pretty good at it, so this is my way of sharing that with the world (or atleast Atlanta ;-D).
Im a strong believer that communication is the answer to ANY problem. Even if you dont agree in the end, you know what pissed the other off, so you can try not to do it again. There's my bandaid for that problem. See, Ive already blessed you with some great advice. From my love life, to work life, to friendships, to just about anything, I always analyze how things have gone in the past, to how they are now, and most importantly where things could go. This is my Fancy Foresight. My take on different situations and how the past and pesent can most likely help predict your future.
I should have done this a long time ago, so majority of my content may have already came and went, but some of you could just now be experiencing something similar, so i will happily fill ya in on my stories! If im feeling a certain way, I may just go off on a tangent that has nothing to do with any of the above mentioned criteria. And i can do that, because, well, its MY Blog! ;-) And on that note, I have a license to just make up words lol and if I do, I will try to explain what Im tombout (talking about) ...and there's your first lesson!
No, this is not a male bashing blog lol I love men!!! I am very unbiased when it comes to my account of a situation, and most of the time can find fault in all parties involved. Sooooooo feel free to come and read, comment, and give ideas for new Blogs Kay? Cool! ttyl
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