Love VS Money

And here we go....


Today I think I wanna talk about balance. How to keep your drive, independence, and goals and still maintain a healthy, good relationship. Is it possible to go for the money and still have love? Does it have to be "VS" instead of "and"? In a lot of relationships Ive experienced and witnessed, some people cant seem to find a balance between working and having time for their mate. I always chalk this up to not really wanting to be with the person due to the lack of effort to make it work. Maybe it's bad to assume but Im a firm believer in "you make time for what you want to make time for," no excuses. Its not your work keeping you away, it's you. Taking a lunch break just to see your partner, or planning something way in advance when you know you will be free, or designating a day a week thats just gonna be about them shows some kind of effort on your behalf. Yes things do come up, and yes maybe those dates could get cancelled, but atleast the attempt shows your effort. And sometimes the effort is all someone needs to see.

I do believe in having goals and working hard to achieve them, and that can frequently consume a lot of your time. But shouldnt making your partner happy be a goal you also put effort towards? If you spend all your time chasing money or fame because that makes you happy, is making the person you love smile just as important? Yes, the person who truly loves you will support you and take the background to your dreams, but dont they need support from you in return. I have seen needy people who just crave way too much attention hourly, and i have seen people who settle for one day out of the month. Where is the balance?

Now, knowing your partner beforehand can clear up a lot of trouble. So Im not speaking about someone who is expecting something they've never gotten, or trying to make someone be something they arent. When you met the person and they didnt spend time with you, they arent going to now! Im talking about having someone who made an effort to put you first sometimes and made sure to include you in their schedule, and then all of a sudden, something replaces you. Is it wrong to expect to consistently receive the same treatment that made you want to even deal with the person in the first place. If you know you cant be consistent, why even start something you cant finish?

Being driven and being successful is great, but dont forget about the one you love. Theyre only human and can only take so much. There is a point when anyone normal is going to need some kind of attention and affection to remain happy. If someone is making an effort to be understanding of your lifestyle, be understanding of their needs in return. I think it's very possible to have both love and money. Sometimes just including your partner in your activities can help balance the two. Communicating with one another, having some sort of game plan, AND STICKING TO IT can ensure you both remain happy.