Woe Is Me

2010 Was a Rough One lol

I mean really, God? You showed out last year. But I got the message!

Romantically, financially, and physically I struggled. If it wasnt one thing, it was another. Aaaallll freakin year. I just couldnt figure out where I went left, because life was always sweet for me.

But then I realized what it was. Maybe I had taken for granted all my many blessings and hadnt taken the time to really pay it forward to someone else. Being appreciative and showing appreciation are two different things.

Many of us go through trials like this, but few really learn and grow from it. I am proud to have made it past everything still smiling. I am happier than before because I know I can only go up from here.

Realizing your strength, drive, and determination in all areas of life is the best lesson learned. Now instead of "woe is me" try *Wow Is Me!* :-)

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LOML

Love Of My Life

He loves me without a doubt, no question, 100% love. All day, everyday, no matter what, even when he says or shows different. I just know.

Doesnt mean we're perfect. Doesnt mean we have a great relationship. He's not always there, but always when it matters. He'll fight for me even while i fight with him.

He knows my favorite color, songs, foods, movies, pajamas, hairstyle, jeans, petpeeves, and every single secret Ive ever had.

The love of your life may not be the one youre with or meant to be with. But just knowing that person exists is a beautiful thing for sure.

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Why Substitute?

Another lesson learned this past year: You cant substitue people. this goes for romantic and platonic relationships. If you break up with someone or fall out with a friend, you either wait for them to come back or you *replace* them. Never try and substitute.

The difference between the two is simple. Substitute means youre putting someone in their place til they come back. Replace means you have moved on and want to give away their spot. Ya gotta choose the latter b/c it's best for all parties involved.

If you ever want them back you need to be patient. Real love doesnt mean you settle for the next best thing. How do you think the love of your life or best friend will feel about you putting some imitation in their spot just cause you were bored? How does the substitution feel when they realize they were just a placeholder? And ofcourse, how do you feel when they both leave you because of that?

If you value your relationships, dont ever substitute. If youre not over it, wait. If you are, move on for good. And be mature enough to know the difference.

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Is It Still 2010???

Happy New Years Guys!!!!

Yeessssss, I know, it has been a while. Im a little late but i promised myself to continue updating my blog this year. :-)

With that being said, although it's the new year, I still find some people hittin me with 2010 BS. Is it just me?!?! Did yall not get the memo that Tavia will not be entertaining any of last years foolery. I refuse to make time for it. Sorry.

I hope you all feel the same way. It's up to you to decide who and what you want to entertain this year. Please dont still be dwelling on some crap that didnt work itself out before the countdown.

If someone or something wants to keep it going, u can let THEM. But know your limits and when youre ready to call it quits for yourself. Dont let anyone disturb your peace of mind.

What is for you is for you, and you wont need to do anything but show up. Stop exhausting yourself hanging on to whatever is trying to go, so you will be refreshed for what is trying to come.

Learn to live and let go. :-)

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