Got your gloves on? Great. Now take them off.
Heartbreak is inevitable. I mean, if it's meant to happen, it's gonna happen. Sorry but its already written. No need in exerting all that energy in a battle you cant win. Not to be a downer but if a situation isn't meant to be, no matter how much you want it, it's probably not going to work out in your favor. You can hope and wish on a star but you cant fight fate.
If it's early on in your situation and you've experienced too many issues to count, that is not a good sign. Probably gonna lead to some form of heartbreak only because you may be trying to make something work that's not supposed to. Now some people just take some adjusting to their new situation and I would hope that's the case most of the time, but just for the sake of this blog, (lol) we'll say that's rare. :-)
To me, it's not so much about fighting heartbreak as it is whether or not you will allow yourself to be happy...for now. If you knew your relationship would end in heartbreak, but you were happy now, would you risk it? Would you stop worrying so much about whats going to happen and just enjoy the present? That's a hard choice to make. Especially when you can never be 100% about the future.
I would venture to say, you're supposed to experience these types of things. Don't try to write your own book. Autobiographies are always lacking!!! Yes, no one wants to get their heart broken. But no one wants to never be in love either. So when faced with this dilemma I just ask myself this: Which one can I do most without??
:-)
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Friday, February 5, 2010
What Can I Do To Help?
Morning!
Today I wanna discuss an issue I always see in all types of relationships, but more frequently in romantic situations. Normally it's called the blame game. One person, or even both is always blaming the other for the bad times and can never see their own faults. There is always an action that precedes a reaction. Even if you're oblivious to the root of the problem, it exists. You can subconsciously be causing your partner to do certain things you may not like. So I suggest when pointing out someones negatives and asking them to change, try to figure out what you can do to help.
To me relationships are like a journey with your partner. You are both trying to get to the same place. If youre riding in the buggy while he's dragging you up the hill (and vice versa) you cant be mad if he keeps slowing down and giving up on the trip. Why complain when you are doing nothing to help. How bout getting out, walking beside him, and helping him push. Even if he doesnt mind dragging you along, it's got to be way easier for you to do the same amount of work.
I try to see both sides to an argument and I try to remember no one is perfect. If you want to bring attention to a problem, the only way to find a solution is to work together. If someone is doing something to bother you, they may just be reacting to something you are doing. To me, dealing with an issue together makes your partner more willing to work on what it is you are asking. In that case, after pointing the finger and demanding change, you have to be willing to ask, "What can I do to help?" :-)
Today I wanna discuss an issue I always see in all types of relationships, but more frequently in romantic situations. Normally it's called the blame game. One person, or even both is always blaming the other for the bad times and can never see their own faults. There is always an action that precedes a reaction. Even if you're oblivious to the root of the problem, it exists. You can subconsciously be causing your partner to do certain things you may not like. So I suggest when pointing out someones negatives and asking them to change, try to figure out what you can do to help.
To me relationships are like a journey with your partner. You are both trying to get to the same place. If youre riding in the buggy while he's dragging you up the hill (and vice versa) you cant be mad if he keeps slowing down and giving up on the trip. Why complain when you are doing nothing to help. How bout getting out, walking beside him, and helping him push. Even if he doesnt mind dragging you along, it's got to be way easier for you to do the same amount of work.
I try to see both sides to an argument and I try to remember no one is perfect. If you want to bring attention to a problem, the only way to find a solution is to work together. If someone is doing something to bother you, they may just be reacting to something you are doing. To me, dealing with an issue together makes your partner more willing to work on what it is you are asking. In that case, after pointing the finger and demanding change, you have to be willing to ask, "What can I do to help?" :-)
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