Get Your Destiny's Child on Today lol
Love will make you do things you've never done before. That's how I know when it's real. Yeah we've all had crushes and liked the hell out of people, but it's rare that you love. (or atleast it should be!) When you are truly happy with someone and you know without a doubt the feelings you share are real and mutual, you should have no problem showing it to the world.
So I say cater to your love. Make sure they're always happy in all areas. No matter who's around or who knows, you should be happy to cook, clean, and do whatever it is that makes them the most happy. Listen to their desires and make sure you are the one fulfilling them. No matter what it is, if you love someone whatever that is will make you happy too. Seeing someone smile or glow because of something you did is the best feeling in the world to me.
And I'm not gonna lie, it took me forever to be that way. But I believe you can only be that way with one person so I'm glad I waited til he got here. Now I'm not saying be rude to everyone you come across or date, but it's just some things and ways you should only show when you're in love. Keep some things sacred and private. When you're allowed to really be your complete true self, it makes it easier to give more.
Dont worry about what anyone else thinks of your actions because there is only one opinion that should matter. So today take some time to cater to the one that makes you happy. The one you feel you cant do without. Let them know how much you are willing to do to make them happy with you. Whether it's something simple or grand, the results will please you both.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Is It Worth It To Be Right?
Hey guys!
Just a lil bit of advice for ppl in relationships with two strong minded individuals and a past with arguments that lasted longer than your recollection of how they even began: let it go. Maybe in the beginning you wanna prove who's boss or your maturity level hasnt reached the revelation that some things are just not that important. No matter the excuse, you should get to a point where you've learned your partner and yourself enough to know when to bring out the white flag.
Being right doesnt always mean you win. You could push an issue so far into the ground that you have to leave your relationship there as well. Then you wish you would have never let it get to that point. Being stubborn and argumentative gets you nowhere in relationships or in life for that matter. Sometimes you have to take a step back and decide if being right means more to you than your partner.
Even if you know the other is wrong, it may not be your job to teach them that lesson. And majority of people will realize on their own if given the opportunity to think for themselves instead of being force-fed what you think should be their opinion. You may just have to, for the sake of peace and longevity, suck it up and let the other person be "right". (even if its only in their mind lol)
It gets to a certain point where you know you and your partner will bump heads and you can never agree on everything. Be prepared to take the backseat sometimes and remember no one is perfect. Mistakes will be made and arguing about who's right could be spent doin things to enhance your relationship, verses tearing it down.
Hey, even a broken clock is right twice a day! :-)
Just a lil bit of advice for ppl in relationships with two strong minded individuals and a past with arguments that lasted longer than your recollection of how they even began: let it go. Maybe in the beginning you wanna prove who's boss or your maturity level hasnt reached the revelation that some things are just not that important. No matter the excuse, you should get to a point where you've learned your partner and yourself enough to know when to bring out the white flag.
Being right doesnt always mean you win. You could push an issue so far into the ground that you have to leave your relationship there as well. Then you wish you would have never let it get to that point. Being stubborn and argumentative gets you nowhere in relationships or in life for that matter. Sometimes you have to take a step back and decide if being right means more to you than your partner.
Even if you know the other is wrong, it may not be your job to teach them that lesson. And majority of people will realize on their own if given the opportunity to think for themselves instead of being force-fed what you think should be their opinion. You may just have to, for the sake of peace and longevity, suck it up and let the other person be "right". (even if its only in their mind lol)
It gets to a certain point where you know you and your partner will bump heads and you can never agree on everything. Be prepared to take the backseat sometimes and remember no one is perfect. Mistakes will be made and arguing about who's right could be spent doin things to enhance your relationship, verses tearing it down.
Hey, even a broken clock is right twice a day! :-)
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
They Got Nothin on Yoouuuuuu Baby!!
Dont You Just Love That Song?!?
Be confident. Trust your partner. Learn your partner. Understand their traits. Be patient with their habits. Let them breathe and explore. Dont worry bout the next.... They got nothin on you.
If you spend your time worrying about little things like flirting and opposite sex friendships, you are taking away some good energy that can be spent toward just being happy with your partner. Who cares about who they talk to sometimes or what people may say or believe?? If you know where you stand and what you mean to your partner, be content with your happiness.
Some say ignorance is bliss. I say knowing is too. You dont have to make sure other people know and believe who you are and what you think you mean to somebody. (lol) When it's there, others can see for themselves. Who are you really trying to convince anyway??? Your partner can tell when you're insecure. Assure them you're not worrying about anyone and anything else but them. They will appreciate the trust, and in return, provide you with the same.
Dont drive your partner away with pointless arguments and attitudes. Allow them to be comfortable, open, and honest with you about anything. Now if your mate is just flat out cheating, that's a whole nother story. You want to be the ONLY one, not the number one!! But a little harmless flirting never hurt anybody. So, you can laugh at the naysayers and people trying to claim your spot. Everyone else (and especially your partner) knows they got nothin on you!!!!!
Be confident. Trust your partner. Learn your partner. Understand their traits. Be patient with their habits. Let them breathe and explore. Dont worry bout the next.... They got nothin on you.
If you spend your time worrying about little things like flirting and opposite sex friendships, you are taking away some good energy that can be spent toward just being happy with your partner. Who cares about who they talk to sometimes or what people may say or believe?? If you know where you stand and what you mean to your partner, be content with your happiness.
Some say ignorance is bliss. I say knowing is too. You dont have to make sure other people know and believe who you are and what you think you mean to somebody. (lol) When it's there, others can see for themselves. Who are you really trying to convince anyway??? Your partner can tell when you're insecure. Assure them you're not worrying about anyone and anything else but them. They will appreciate the trust, and in return, provide you with the same.
Dont drive your partner away with pointless arguments and attitudes. Allow them to be comfortable, open, and honest with you about anything. Now if your mate is just flat out cheating, that's a whole nother story. You want to be the ONLY one, not the number one!! But a little harmless flirting never hurt anybody. So, you can laugh at the naysayers and people trying to claim your spot. Everyone else (and especially your partner) knows they got nothin on you!!!!!
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Fighting Heartbreak
Got your gloves on? Great. Now take them off.
Heartbreak is inevitable. I mean, if it's meant to happen, it's gonna happen. Sorry but its already written. No need in exerting all that energy in a battle you cant win. Not to be a downer but if a situation isn't meant to be, no matter how much you want it, it's probably not going to work out in your favor. You can hope and wish on a star but you cant fight fate.
If it's early on in your situation and you've experienced too many issues to count, that is not a good sign. Probably gonna lead to some form of heartbreak only because you may be trying to make something work that's not supposed to. Now some people just take some adjusting to their new situation and I would hope that's the case most of the time, but just for the sake of this blog, (lol) we'll say that's rare. :-)
To me, it's not so much about fighting heartbreak as it is whether or not you will allow yourself to be happy...for now. If you knew your relationship would end in heartbreak, but you were happy now, would you risk it? Would you stop worrying so much about whats going to happen and just enjoy the present? That's a hard choice to make. Especially when you can never be 100% about the future.
I would venture to say, you're supposed to experience these types of things. Don't try to write your own book. Autobiographies are always lacking!!! Yes, no one wants to get their heart broken. But no one wants to never be in love either. So when faced with this dilemma I just ask myself this: Which one can I do most without??
:-)
Heartbreak is inevitable. I mean, if it's meant to happen, it's gonna happen. Sorry but its already written. No need in exerting all that energy in a battle you cant win. Not to be a downer but if a situation isn't meant to be, no matter how much you want it, it's probably not going to work out in your favor. You can hope and wish on a star but you cant fight fate.
If it's early on in your situation and you've experienced too many issues to count, that is not a good sign. Probably gonna lead to some form of heartbreak only because you may be trying to make something work that's not supposed to. Now some people just take some adjusting to their new situation and I would hope that's the case most of the time, but just for the sake of this blog, (lol) we'll say that's rare. :-)
To me, it's not so much about fighting heartbreak as it is whether or not you will allow yourself to be happy...for now. If you knew your relationship would end in heartbreak, but you were happy now, would you risk it? Would you stop worrying so much about whats going to happen and just enjoy the present? That's a hard choice to make. Especially when you can never be 100% about the future.
I would venture to say, you're supposed to experience these types of things. Don't try to write your own book. Autobiographies are always lacking!!! Yes, no one wants to get their heart broken. But no one wants to never be in love either. So when faced with this dilemma I just ask myself this: Which one can I do most without??
:-)
Friday, February 5, 2010
What Can I Do To Help?
Morning!
Today I wanna discuss an issue I always see in all types of relationships, but more frequently in romantic situations. Normally it's called the blame game. One person, or even both is always blaming the other for the bad times and can never see their own faults. There is always an action that precedes a reaction. Even if you're oblivious to the root of the problem, it exists. You can subconsciously be causing your partner to do certain things you may not like. So I suggest when pointing out someones negatives and asking them to change, try to figure out what you can do to help.
To me relationships are like a journey with your partner. You are both trying to get to the same place. If youre riding in the buggy while he's dragging you up the hill (and vice versa) you cant be mad if he keeps slowing down and giving up on the trip. Why complain when you are doing nothing to help. How bout getting out, walking beside him, and helping him push. Even if he doesnt mind dragging you along, it's got to be way easier for you to do the same amount of work.
I try to see both sides to an argument and I try to remember no one is perfect. If you want to bring attention to a problem, the only way to find a solution is to work together. If someone is doing something to bother you, they may just be reacting to something you are doing. To me, dealing with an issue together makes your partner more willing to work on what it is you are asking. In that case, after pointing the finger and demanding change, you have to be willing to ask, "What can I do to help?" :-)
Today I wanna discuss an issue I always see in all types of relationships, but more frequently in romantic situations. Normally it's called the blame game. One person, or even both is always blaming the other for the bad times and can never see their own faults. There is always an action that precedes a reaction. Even if you're oblivious to the root of the problem, it exists. You can subconsciously be causing your partner to do certain things you may not like. So I suggest when pointing out someones negatives and asking them to change, try to figure out what you can do to help.
To me relationships are like a journey with your partner. You are both trying to get to the same place. If youre riding in the buggy while he's dragging you up the hill (and vice versa) you cant be mad if he keeps slowing down and giving up on the trip. Why complain when you are doing nothing to help. How bout getting out, walking beside him, and helping him push. Even if he doesnt mind dragging you along, it's got to be way easier for you to do the same amount of work.
I try to see both sides to an argument and I try to remember no one is perfect. If you want to bring attention to a problem, the only way to find a solution is to work together. If someone is doing something to bother you, they may just be reacting to something you are doing. To me, dealing with an issue together makes your partner more willing to work on what it is you are asking. In that case, after pointing the finger and demanding change, you have to be willing to ask, "What can I do to help?" :-)
Friday, January 29, 2010
Im So Hard
Ah Yeah Yeah Yeah!
Yes im back on my Rih-Rih sh!t :-)
Imma keep this one short and sweet. I like hard. I luv even harder. It doesnt take much for me to figure out if I wanna kick it with you or not. I dont know if I believe in luv at first sight, but I do believe in chemistry and sparks. And because of that, I dont waste time dealin with people I have no connection with. On the other hand, although rare and far in between, once having given my biggest connections a chance, it didnt take long for me to fall, hard. This can be a bad thing, but because I can count on one hand the guys who have had that impact, Im glad to have experienced that type of feeling.
Now, although it was all amazing and wonderful and I couldnt have been more happy, I also realize how once things began to fall apart, and I made my mind up, I was done. It didnt matter how much I once loved or liked them; once I had enough of the nonsense I shut down. Most women hang on to bad situations because they want to. They believe things will change. Contrary to popular belief, it has nothing to do with anything the guy says or does to keep her around; its solely because she wants to. And when she decides she does not want it anymore, it's pretty much over. That's how a guy can say and do whateva and a bish wont budge.
This doesnt mean the feelings just go away or that she doesnt wish it could still work. She just stops putting forth the effort and you are no longer a priority. How can I be all about you last week and then not even answer my phone this week? Simple. Because I was always in control of my emotions and my actions. I did what I did because I wanted to. And now that I dont want to, I wont. :-)
Yes im back on my Rih-Rih sh!t :-)
Imma keep this one short and sweet. I like hard. I luv even harder. It doesnt take much for me to figure out if I wanna kick it with you or not. I dont know if I believe in luv at first sight, but I do believe in chemistry and sparks. And because of that, I dont waste time dealin with people I have no connection with. On the other hand, although rare and far in between, once having given my biggest connections a chance, it didnt take long for me to fall, hard. This can be a bad thing, but because I can count on one hand the guys who have had that impact, Im glad to have experienced that type of feeling.
Now, although it was all amazing and wonderful and I couldnt have been more happy, I also realize how once things began to fall apart, and I made my mind up, I was done. It didnt matter how much I once loved or liked them; once I had enough of the nonsense I shut down. Most women hang on to bad situations because they want to. They believe things will change. Contrary to popular belief, it has nothing to do with anything the guy says or does to keep her around; its solely because she wants to. And when she decides she does not want it anymore, it's pretty much over. That's how a guy can say and do whateva and a bish wont budge.
This doesnt mean the feelings just go away or that she doesnt wish it could still work. She just stops putting forth the effort and you are no longer a priority. How can I be all about you last week and then not even answer my phone this week? Simple. Because I was always in control of my emotions and my actions. I did what I did because I wanted to. And now that I dont want to, I wont. :-)
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