Its morniiiiiing :-)
I think I wanna touch on some relationship stuff today :-/ lol I think its important to try and understand why you cant leave certain people alone or let go of your feelings for someone who clearly is not the one or does not share those same feelings as you. It really SUCKS when you feel as though your feelings arent mutual and the other person has the upperhand in your relationship. And when I say relationship, I mean any kind: boyfriend/girlfriend, or just dating/talking, or even just sexing. Its got to be mutual; everyone has to be on the same page. Something on a smaller scale could lead to much bigger things, but youve both got to know what the other wants and doesnt want. Thats why I always say communication is key.
If youre always left wanting more or feeling unsatisfied mentally or physically, its safe to say either that person just doesnt know how you feel or they just arent that into you. Sorry! If youve told someone how you feel and nothing changes, that should (in most cases) let you know the feelings arent mutual because they would put forth the effort to make you believe they feel the same way as you. And in most cases, this conversation isnt even needed because you guys are already there. Now dont get me wrong, cause Im no Dr. Phil, but in my experience, this type of behavior normally means they just aint feelin ya. And that doesnt mean at all, just not the way you like or love them.
If youve been dealing with someone for a long period of time and youve yet to get to a place where you are both happy with your specific relationship, you might not ever be. Although I believe relationships require effort, it shouldnt take years to get it right. Not on basic things like how much time you spend together, or communicate, or "where your relationship is heading". Clearly its no where if you have that talk every couple weeks. If in the back of your mind, you believe someone isnt being all the way 100 with you, 9 times out of 10, they arent.
My main issue is, if youre in a situation with someone where it never goes your way and you always feel like you care waaaaaaay more than they do, its okay. The heart is not your brain. Although you know in your mind, this person isnt right for you, or they just flat out aint sh!t, the heart does not know that. Its okay to feel a certain way about someone even if its not mutual. You cant tell your heart what to do. No, you shouldnt make a fool of yourself, but if you settle for the minimum BY CHOICE, then so be it. Sometimes its just like that, and thats the way it is! Sometimes you just wanna see that person even if its for a little bit ;-) *sigh*
What Im trying to say (before you stalkers get any ideas) is just because that persons feelings arent as full blown as yours (or maybe they dont show it like you do) and you continue to deal with them, doesnt mean something is wrong with you for still caring. If you stop loving someone or liking someone just because they dont show it the same way you do, you might not have felt that way in the first place. Dont be mad at them and dont beat yourself up. Now, if you wake up and realize you want something else, or you cant handle their casualness to your situation, then move on. Either way, you may then STILL have those feelings. You just arent acting on them anymore.
Now for those lucky people on the other side. Do them a favor and just tell them what it is. Hey, I dont like you like that, or I do feel the same, I just dont wanna act on it..... Whatever it may be, dont let the person drive themselves crazy trying to figure you out. If you care about them, even if its on a way smaller scale than they do you, let them know how you feel so they can make whatever decision may be best for them and their happiness. And to all my people who wear their heart on their sleeve and arent afraid of being 100 and putting themselves out there in the path of rejection or heartache, I applaud you, because you WONT miss out on love as someone who never says or does anything and loses what could be the best thing that ever happened to them. =)
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