Morning People!!
Forgiving is hard. Let's just face it. It takes a while for most people to learn how to let go of grudges and just forgive and let it go. I used to be the queen of making people PAY for what they did to me! lol But i lost a lot of good friends doing that. Once you realize you arent gaining anything by not forgiving someone who is clearly remorseful and sorry, you will find it easier to forgive. Do you really not want them around? I didnt think so!
What helped me most was realizing clearly im not perfect, and i would hate for someone to never forgive me for a mistake. After being on the other side of the table, its easier to understand when forgiveness is due. We are all gonna have to use it one day, so just be prepared to break the glass on the "in case of emergency" forgiveness box. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and move on.
Some people may not deserve to be forgiven, and that's when things get tricky. Although its extremely hard in this case, go ahead and forgive them. You'll feel better in the long wrong. It takes so much energy to hate and despise someone than it does to just pray about it and move along. You dont have to tell them directly. You can just be at peace with the situation and you will honestly feel a whole lot better. I dont go to church everyday, but me and God are homies (the long way) and when I ask him to help me be a bigger and better person, things become so much easier. You definitely need some back up with forgiving someone you think doesnt deserve it.
Some people will try and make you feel stupid or naive for being so forgiving but its way easier to exchange "Im sorry....I forgive you" than to argue about something forever just to end up at that same point. Dont let friends or family make you feel bad about forgiving. It's what youre supposed to do. Loving people means accepting their faults. You gotta be able to encourage people to do better by letting them know you understand and you forgive them, in hopes they will learn from it.
In a lot of cases, people continue to make the same mistakes, and at that point you may need to forgive and really move on. Either way you will be happier in the long run by letting that burden of a grudge go and living your life. If someone cant forgive you for something, whatever. Shouldnt stop your flow. If you know youre truly sorry and they just cant be an adult and forgive you, then so be it. You dont need them to validate your remorse. Forgive them for not forgiving you. :-)
I like this one! Forgiving is hard but it must be done. One thing that I have learned is that when you don't forgive people for their wrong doings you end up hurting your own self. while that person is feeling free and living their life, you are steady harboring anger in yor heart. I refuse to give anybody power over me. It is soooo much easier to just forgive and move on with your life. Another fact thhat sticks with me is, if I can't forgive people then how in the world can I expect God to forgive me. Anywho I said all of that to say, keep up the good work! This blog was on point!
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