Why Substitute?

Another lesson learned this past year: You cant substitue people. this goes for romantic and platonic relationships. If you break up with someone or fall out with a friend, you either wait for them to come back or you *replace* them. Never try and substitute.

The difference between the two is simple. Substitute means youre putting someone in their place til they come back. Replace means you have moved on and want to give away their spot. Ya gotta choose the latter b/c it's best for all parties involved.

If you ever want them back you need to be patient. Real love doesnt mean you settle for the next best thing. How do you think the love of your life or best friend will feel about you putting some imitation in their spot just cause you were bored? How does the substitution feel when they realize they were just a placeholder? And ofcourse, how do you feel when they both leave you because of that?

If you value your relationships, dont ever substitute. If youre not over it, wait. If you are, move on for good. And be mature enough to know the difference.

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